ExcitableBoy wrote:She is doing the research her husband apparently refuses to do, not undercut him. It is wive's jobs, especially pregnant wifes, to make sure their husbands don't do stupid things. I've been married long enough to accept that fact.
Says who? Says her? Unless he's a complete moron (if so, refer to my first post), he's done plenty of research- and probably the type that nets you useful and applicable information, not the odd opinion of anonymous internet posters with utterly unknown backgrounds, motives, and experience levels.
Reading into her post: I don't want him to climb, but we've only been married for a year or two, and haven't yet started putting my foot down and telling him what he can and can't do, so instead, I'm going to make him sound like a typical noobs-lost-on-Rainier news story candidate and divine the evidence I need to throw in his face how ignorant and stupid he's being.
Taking the OP at face value: I don't trust my husband. Despite the fact that he's an athlete and in 20x better condition than 90% of people who climb the mountain, I don't think he's fit enough, intelligent enough to make wise decisions about it, and if I seriously have to let him do this, I want him to do this the way
I want him to do it, not how he's decided it's best for him to do it.
Either way, it stinks.
I've also been married long enough to know a thing or two about marriage. If my beloved had ever under-cut me like this, we would likely not have the wonderful marriage that we have today. When I decided I wanted to climb, all she had to say was something along the lines of, "if you're really sure this is what you want to do, then go with God... but you'd
better come home!" She knows I'm a responsible, strong, and able man. She trusts she made a good choice in life-long partner. She's never questioned my climbing decisions (and some of them,
in hindsight, have been questionable).
We have 4.5 kids, and I'm a sole-provider, BTW. It's not like she has nothing to lose.