The Chief wrote:I am happily married to the most wonderful woman on this planet!
She has no qualms with me climbing with another women. She trust me and knows I would never break our vows. I love her too much for even considering that. I have had several female clients and have had no issues.
Besides, when I go climbing, sexual/social relationships considerations are/have are NEVER in the plans.
I'm too busy focusing on the climb...period!
Amen!
If you're sig. other can't trust you to that degree then how in the hell would one expect a relationship over the long run to work?
Have people gotten so selfish and insecure that trust and respect no longer factor into a relationship? No wonder quacks like Dr. Phil & Oprah are profiteering off people now-a-days.
My girl and myself who do climb & scramble, mainly alpine, have no problem with the other heading out to the crags or to a mountain with another of the opposite sex.
We're completely comfortable with who we are, 100% implicitly 'into' the other and have tacit trust & respect for each other.
It's NOT even an issue. 'Bout as important as asking what's for dinner.
Shit. People need to wake the fuck up & realize jealousy is a really nasty emotion & have some faith in their S.O. for a change.
Haliku wrote:An interesting thread. In my opinion it is trust and communication between the couple. Sometimes that equilibrium is never reached. There were 'plenty' (~10%) of women on Denali this past season. For the wife/GF at home that could be a tough concept to accept, especially if they really don't understand mountaineering/climbing etc. Could something happen? Sure. Nothing is 100%. It’s usually not about the person going off climbing but is the insecurity/baggage of the one who is home worrying.
Can it be too many TV shows and celeb magazine planting the thought that cheating is the most common issue in our society?
Really good point.
Steph and myself would rather see the other one of us get out even if the other can't make it.
Icarreau wrote:If I didn't trust my spouse, then I wouldn't be married to her.
Truer words were never typed!
Bob Sihler wrote:thoth wrote:radson wrote:I like MoapaPk's answer the best. He asked his partner, sensed some discomfort and bailed. To me this shows respect and empathy rather than belligerent sanctimony.
+1
Yup. Totally the right thing to do and, I am glad to say, what I would do. I would tell my wife and see how she reacted, and go from there.
This is a really good alternative point to the arguement and despite what I typed, I do agree with this.